Anxiety Treatment | Thousand Oaks, CA

Anxiety Treatment in Thousand Oaks, California

Anxiety 101

The cause of most anxiety has its beginnings in childhood, anywhere from early infancy to late adolescence. Important caretakers, usually parents, will do something that is deeply hurtful to the child. The hurtful acts can be a one-time event or can occur many times over many years. These disturbing events can result in extreme attachment bond ruptures.

If the attachment bond ruptures get repaired early on, the child will not suffer from anxiety. The repair work involves parents to be aware of how hurtful their behavior was to the child and to lovingly and sincerely let the child know how sorry they are for inflicting pain to the child. The parents also encourage the child to speak in detail of their feelings toward the parent who hurt them. Finally, the parents succeed in no longer repeating the hurtful behaviors.

Often the attachment bond ruptures do not adequately get repaired. In many cases, the parents are not even aware of deeply hurting their child. Not coincidentally, many of these parents experienced un-repaired attachment bond ruptures from their childhoods.

NOW WE GET TO THE CORE OF THE MATTER

When you experience being hurt by your parent, you have some degree of anger and sadness about the person you also love. Now you are in a terrible dilemma.

Your real feelings are not allowed to be known so you must keep these powerful emotions out of your conscious awareness. Nevertheless, you end up punishing yourself for the unconscious fantasies of what your anger looks like. You become self-sabotaging in ways in which you hurt yourself for being angry at the parents you also love.

You suffer with anxiety rather than being able to fully know about your buried feelings. Also, you are likely to be depressed which de-energizes your anger and keeps your feelings hidden. Finally, you are likely to suffer psychologically based illnesses and bodily pain.

This terrible suffering will go on until you are able to fully face your forbidden feelings and impulses. With Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy you will be able to safely get to the core emotions and re-experience these powerful feelings that you have been avoiding since the time of the trauma.

Usually the actual trauma is not the cause of your suffering. The actual repression of the strong feelings and impulses that you had at the time of the trauma is what keeps you suffering.

You are one of millions of people who have their lives disturbed by being anxious, afraid of powerful and real feelings. Some people take medications to subdue the severity of their anxiety symptoms, but the real problem does not get resolved.

We all have had some degree of emotional pain during our lives, but we don’t have to let it cause us to suffer.

Contact us in Thousand Oaks, California, for life changing anxiety treatment.